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What if I can't stay?

Don't overburden yourself with guilt about this. Lots of parents have to go to work, or have responsibilities at home that mean they can't stay with their child in hospital, or visit as much as they'd like. Talk to the Ward Sister if you're worried, and keep up to date on your child's progress and welfare through your named nurse. She will be able to help your child telephone you so that you keep in touch regularly this way. You can also send letters and postcards, which most children really enjoy receiving.

Can visitors help?

Sharing staying or visiting with other relatives or friends who your child knows well, can relieve the pressure on you.

Ask them to bring in food, clean clothes and different toys, and make use of their visits to have some time off yourself.

Although visitors are important, too many at once can be tiring and your child will appreciate them more if they are spread out over several visits. Ask someone you know who will be tactful to arrange this for you.

How do I deal with the rest of my family?

It's important that they don't feel left out. Including people as much as possible, and talking to them about what's happening to their sister or brother, son, daughter, grandson or granddaughter really helps.

Encouraging brothers and sisters to write a card, or make a little present, or even talk on the phone can make everyone feel better.

If your child is hospitalised for some time, ask a relative or friend to stay with her while you spend time at home with the rest of the family.

When it gets near the time your child is coming home, make sure you are all prepared.

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